0 Have your say OUR Jack has been busier than an elf in Lapland this Christmas. For the first time ever, my 16-year-old son has a proper, paying job. He’s a waiter in a local hotel, and a condition of the job was that he was available for work on December 25. This means I forgo my festive morning glass of fizz and deliver him to the hotel kitchen door at midday where he will serve Christmas dinners. At 4pm, the adult in the house who has drawn the lot to remain sober and legal to drive will go and pick him up.Then we will sit down and eat our own dinner and congratulate Jack on his achievement. It takes some maturity for a teenager to go to work on Christmas Day without complaint. I’m very proud of him, especially because I know he will be proud of himself when he sees his bank balance at the end of the month.And I’m proud of us all for finding him this job. It certainly took some doing. However, I was determined that he was going to also start … [Read more...] about Jayne Dowle: Why this Christmas is a work in progress for my teenage son Jack
Where to get help for my teenage son
It was once considered a taboo subject. But while many of us are now talking openly about mental health problems, treatment services are still struggling to keep up. Waiting months or even years to see a specialist, the frustration of negotiating the bewildering maze of mental health services and constantly being bounced around between different organisations. They're just some of the experiences people with mental health issues in Greater Manchester have been sharing with us. But in the meantime people are dying. So what's going on? "NHS mental health services have been underfunded for decades," Elizabeth Simpson, service director at mental health charity Manchester Mind told the M.E.N. "There is also a huge economic cost to poor mental health and in Greater Manchester this is expected to reach £3.5bn by 2021." It's thought one in four of us will experience mental health problems at some point in our lives. Suicide is the biggest killer of men under 49 in our region and it's also … [Read more...] about People are struggling to get help with mental problems that claim lives. Why?
David replies: Our sleep habits can be changed, provided we are motivated to do so. Sometimes that involves changes to our environment, or our lifestyle. Sometimes it requires changes to our sleep routines, sometimes referred to as our sleep hygiene. Feeling too hot, too cold, too restricted by bedclothes and so on, is often too distracting for us, and the discomfort can often keep us awake. So, in the first instance, he needs to make sure he is physically comfortable. Sometimes too, we can feel physically rundown when we are working hard and it may be worth a trip to the GP for some blood tests to check his levels of iron, vitamin D and other such nutrients, as he may be out of balance. Your GP may then be able to recommend any supplements that will help him. You mention that nothing seems to be stressing him, but if he is so tired coming in from school, it may be that he is finding the step-up to fifth year to be, perhaps, more overwhelming than you or he may have expected. When it … [Read more...] about Dear David Coleman: My teenage son has difficulty sleeping. Any tips?
Long delays to get a doctor's appointment, waiting years to see a specialist and constantly being bounced around between services. These are some of the stories M.E.N. readers have been sharing about their struggles to get help with mental health issues. It comes after we reported on the heartbreaking story of mum Jane Kavanagh who took her own life after struggling to get help for her disabled daughter. Yesterday an inquest into the 33-year-old's death heard she called her GP surgery to say she was suicidal and was offered an appointment 12 days later. The next day she killed herself. Miss Kavanagh, of Rochdale, had been a full-time carer to her 15-year-old daughter, who was autistic and suffered from the degenerative condition cerebral ataxia. But despite living on her own with her two children, Miss Kavanagh had no care workers assigned to her, had no adaptations made to her house and was offered no respite care. Her case was described as 'extremely concerning' by coroner Nicholas … [Read more...] about Horrendous experiences of people trying to get help with mental health issues
THE moment Lara Thwaites walked through her front door to find her son James hanged will haunt her for ever. She had chatted on the phone with the 16-year-old as she left work and he had asked her to pick up a pizza and Coke. But in the 30 minutes it took her to return home, James had been bombarded with hateful messages on Snapchat. Minutes later he took his own life. In the wake of last week’s shocking revelations about Facebook’s refusal to give police the password of the chief suspect in a murder case, Lara is warning all parents about the dangers social media can pose to young people. Today, she tells her story to Lynsey Hope as part of The Sun’s You’re Not Alone suicide prevention campaign. THERE was nothing unusual about the house when Lara got home from work. She recalls: “I carried some shopping bags in from the car. I walked into the living room and something caught my eye. “I turned to look and my brain didn’t … [Read more...] about In the time it took to get a pizza, bullies on Snapchat drove my son to suicide