Abse and I also discussed a tendency in some relationships for one half of the couple to carry the anxiety, which allows the other to be more relaxed. It might be interesting to consider your other close relationships (with parents/siblings etc). Is there one in which you can be more relaxed, perhaps because the other person carries more responsibility, holds more anxiety and the stakes aren’t as high as you perceive them to be in the family home? I have noticed, for example, that when I’m with one family member who is highly anxious, I become a different person: far more relaxed. … [Read more...] about How can I shift some of the mental load of family life on to my husband?
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The organic molecules preserved in 3.5 billion-year-old bedrock in Gale Crater — believed to have once contained a shallow lake the size of Florida's Lake Okeechobee — suggest conditions back then may have been conducive to life. … [Read more...] about Glowing green microbes found living in mineral-rich rocks deep below the ocean floor could hold the key to finding life on Mars
‘When I get bored, I want a 70s mix or a Cary Grant movie’ Anne Enright Honestly, there is a lot to be said for tooling about all day, looking up recipes and not making them, not bothering to paint the living room and failing to write a novel. In the middle of the messy non-event called your mid-afternoon, you might get something – a thought to jot down, a good paragraph, a piece of gossip to text a pal. Boredom is a productive state so long as you don’t let it go sour on you. Try not to confuse the urge to get something done with the idea that you are useless. Try not to confuse the urge to contact someone with the thought that you are unloved. Do the thing or don’t do it. Either is fine. … [Read more...] about Tiger King and a bloody mary: Hilary Mantel, Simon Armitage and other writers on lockdown life
Part of undoing the fear that separates us, dispelling the hostility and suspicion, is pushing past the lines of race and gender and orientation and political affiliation that divide us and connecting as human beings full of love and desires and fears and aspirations. In this way, communicating with people outside our prescribed societal sphere feels to me like a deliciously seditious act. … [Read more...] about Life is richer when we talk to strangers
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