DEAR DEIDRE: My best friend, my husband and I all had too much to drink one night and ended up having a threesome. It was amazing at the time, if a bit weird, but we all said later we regretted it and it was down to the alcohol. Now I’ve discovered my husband and my friend have been texting one another on the quiet. I am 33, my husband is 37 and my friend is 29. I knew something was up when she asked how a job interview had gone when I hadn’t told her about it. She said my husband mentioned it when texting about work his brother was doing on her house. I looked at his phone. Most of the messages had been deleted but I found one exchange which was full of “love you” and “xxxx”. The three of us have been best friends for a long time. She went through a very bad patch a few years ago and I was the person she confided in. Her husband was gambling and taking drugs and it got so bad their two young children were almost taken into care. I did all I could to … [Read more...] about My husband and I had an amazing threesome and now he’s having an affair with the other woman
I divorced my husband and want him back
Dear Coleen My husband has thrown me out of our home and I am desperate to get my family back. I’m 26 and he is 27. We’ve been married for seven years and have two children, aged four and six. Throughout our marriage I have been seeing a friend of my dad’s on a casual basis. We don’t have full sex, I just pleasure him in other ways. Most of the time I’m completely happy in my marriage, but now and then I enjoy pleasuring other men. This friend of my dad’s will drop me a text asking for a meet-up once or twice a month. Occasionally, I have also picked up other men on nights out with my friends. My husband had no idea and, as far as I was concerned, if I didn’t have full intercourse with these men then it wasn’t cheating. Recently though, I made a terrible mistake. My husband took the kids away camping for the weekend. After they left, I was feeling bored, so I texted my lover and invited him over for an evening of oral pleasure. When he … [Read more...] about Dear Coleen: My husband has thrown me out for cheating with dad’s pal
I'M married to a man that I want to divorce. We've been together for 15 years but he's betrayed my trust so many times over the years.I know he's seeing another woman at work – he hasn't denied it and when I asked one of his colleagues, they confirmed it. I've also found receipts in his jacket for jewellery or gifts that I've never received.His mobile phone is full of calls to this woman and when he went away on business recently, she went too. At home, we're sleeping in separate rooms and our sexual relationship stopped over two years ago.We barely speak to each other except when our daughter is around. She seems confused and withdrawn at times, so we try to pretend that nothing is wrong. However, she's a smart eight-year-old and I am sure she is aware that something is wrong.Last week, I tried once again to get him out of the house by packing his cases while he was at work, but when he came home, he somehow made it seem like it was all my fault.Then yesterday, I overheard him … [Read more...] about Ask Fiona: Should I divorce my husband or will that put me in debt?
MY husband and I were in our teens when we got married, and we had two of our four children before I was 20. Now we have four in total, and at 31, I'm feeling old, whereas he seems to have reverted back to his teenage years. Our marriage has run out of steam as I don't have any energy to do anything, and he wants to start doing the things he never had the chance to do when he was younger. He goes out nearly every night, but as the kids are too young to be left alone, I'm always stuck indoors looking after them. Even if I wanted to go with him I probably wouldn't be able to, because I've got no energy. The strain on our marriage is starting to tell and although I've I tried to get him to stay in a bit more, he says there's no point because I'm never interested anyway. I suppose that's true because all we seem to do these days is nag each other, but I'm afraid my marriage may be on the rocks. MP FIONA SAYS: I think your husband is acting very unfairly, but the first thing to tackle here … [Read more...] about Ask Fiona: My husband has changed and my marriage heading for divorce
MY stepsister is 78 and is nursing her 80-year-old husband who has had a stroke, heart bypass surgery and suffers from diabetes. He's still mobile, to an extent, but demands 24-hour attention – which she gives to him with no help at all because he refuses to accept anyone else looking after him.Aside from going to the doctor, he won't leave the house. He just wants to be a recluse, sitting for hours at his computer or watching TV. He's bullied my sister for years now, and she's told me she hates him and is just waiting for him to die.Even so, she goes on caring for him. While my other sister and I visit to check up on her as much as we can, we think the strain is killing her and that she could die first. I've told her to stop shouting at him so much and to get some help around the house, but what else can we do?GHFIONA SAYS: Your stepsister's anger and resentment is understandable, and it could be that she feels brave enough to express feelings she's repressed for many years, … [Read more...] about Ask Fiona: How do I get my step-sister to see she needs help caring for her husband?