Fiona Caine is a trained counsellor. Here she gives advice on relationships. Q. My husband and I have been married for 16 years. My daughter is 19 and my husband knows she is not his, but he adopted her, and she has his last name. We also have sons and my husband is definitely their father. However, I am scared about what will happen when they get older and find out? I do NOT want to tell them but am worried that they will find out. A. Providing your daughter and husband are relaxed about the issue, I see no reason why you shouldn't just tell your sons now in a way that is appropriate for their age. Otherwise, I think you should at the very least accept that they may one day find out, and stop worrying about what will happen when they do. If they are attending school, they will have come across many different types of family arrangements, from single parents to large merged families. So, far from being shocked by their own family situation, I think it far … [Read more...] about Should I tell my children they have different dads?
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I grew up as one of six children in a devout Catholic family in the USA. I did everything I was supposed to: I went to church, and studied hard. After college I climbed the corporate ladder as a business analyst and landed a management job at a data communications company in Georgia – the first woman in that role. But sexism was rife and male colleagues made my life a misery – except Gary. He had my back and we became friends. But when he wanted to start dating I hesitated. He’d told me he was divorced with a young daughter, and I didn’t want him if he was on the rebound. After he reassured me, I eventually gave in. ‘Christine, I’m ready to move on… with you.’ We married in 1991 and our family was complete when our daughter Megan and sons Walter and Alex were born. I was totally in love. Little did I know a nightmare was secretly unravelling. Fast-forward to 2005. We’d just returned to our Kentucky home after 10 wonderful years in … [Read more...] about ‘Bigamist hubby stole my money and left me with kids
Being an only daughter, I grew up sandwiched between two brothers and we were reared in exactly the same way - none of us made to feel inferior or superior because of our gender. Fast forward to adulthood and my own relationship is also based on equality - both my husband and I work, we do our fair share around the house and parenting is something we work at together. It's not always 50/50 or perfect but we do our best. Of course, I've had dealings with misogynistic men throughout my life, but as family goes, I've been fortunate. Gender equality was such a normal aspect of my life that when it came to bringing up our three sons - Cailan (20), Tadhg (18) and Rodhan (14) - my husband and I didn't decide how we were going to raise them, nor did we have a discussion about how important it was for them to grow up believing women are their equals. This wasn't because we thought it unimportant, but simply for both of us, it was a given. Some would say we are a family of feminists but I … [Read more...] about How I raised my three boys to be feminists
KEVIN Clifton has emerged as Strictly's biggest lothario after three failed marriages and a love affair with his latest celeb dance partner Stacey Dooley. The Grimsby-born star, 36, recently insisted he would never date a co-star, but it has now been revealed he romanced documentary-maker Stacey behind her boyfriend Sam Tucknott's back. Just weeks ago Kevin was asked about falling victim to the Strictly curse, replying: "No, never. You’re there to do a job and get on with the dancing. That’s what it’s about." However, he's now been branded a "snake" and "dirty rat" by devastated Sam, who saw the dancer as a good mate during Stacey's time on the show. One of Strictly's most popular dancers, Kevin was in Stacey's sights from the beginning, according to Sam. He revealed how the journalist was desperate to be partnered with Kevin once she was selected to appear, citing his past four finals and his bubbly, fun-loving personality as reasons. Sam recalled: "From the start … [Read more...] about How Strictly’s Kevin Clifton divorced three stunners and charmed Stacey Dooley into ditching her boyfriend
Mary Killen 6 April 2019 9:00 AM 6 April 2019 9:00 AM Share Twitter Facebook LinkedIn Email Whatsapp Q. A woman I’ve known for years is getting divorced and rings me every day to talk about it. I have closer friends with ongoing problems and, though I do care, I don’t have the emotional energy or time to deal with her problem as well. I work and she never has, so she can’t really understand how tired I am. Your advice? A. Confide that you are finding it difficult, both at work and at home, to talk on the telephone without being overheard. Explain that this is inhibiting your ability to empathise and strategise with her. Suggest that instead she begins to communicate her feelings to you by daily email. In this way you can give her situation your undivided attention and email back your considered responses. It will be less emotionally draining for you to read her updates than to hear them. Ironically she will also benefit by clarifying her … [Read more...] about Dear Mary: how can I stop my husband from hijacking my punchlines?