I grew up as one of six children in a devout Catholic family in the USA. I did everything I was supposed to: I went to church, and studied hard. After college I climbed the corporate ladder as a business analyst and landed a management job at a data communications company in Georgia – the first woman in that role. But sexism was rife and male colleagues made my life a misery – except Gary. He had my back and we became friends. But when he wanted to start dating I hesitated. He’d told me he was divorced with a young daughter, and I didn’t want him if he was on the rebound. After he reassured me, I eventually gave in. ‘Christine, I’m ready to move on… with you.’ We married in 1991 and our family was complete when our daughter Megan and sons Walter and Alex were born. I was totally in love. Little did I know a nightmare was secretly unravelling. Fast-forward to 2005. We’d just returned to our Kentucky home after 10 wonderful years in … [Read more...] about ‘Bigamist hubby stole my money and left me with kids
I divorced my husband and want him back
Being an only daughter, I grew up sandwiched between two brothers and we were reared in exactly the same way - none of us made to feel inferior or superior because of our gender. Fast forward to adulthood and my own relationship is also based on equality - both my husband and I work, we do our fair share around the house and parenting is something we work at together. It's not always 50/50 or perfect but we do our best. Of course, I've had dealings with misogynistic men throughout my life, but as family goes, I've been fortunate. Gender equality was such a normal aspect of my life that when it came to bringing up our three sons - Cailan (20), Tadhg (18) and Rodhan (14) - my husband and I didn't decide how we were going to raise them, nor did we have a discussion about how important it was for them to grow up believing women are their equals. This wasn't because we thought it unimportant, but simply for both of us, it was a given. Some would say we are a family of feminists but I … [Read more...] about How I raised my three boys to be feminists
Mary Killen 6 April 2019 9:00 AM 6 April 2019 9:00 AM Share Twitter Facebook LinkedIn Email Whatsapp Q. A woman I’ve known for years is getting divorced and rings me every day to talk about it. I have closer friends with ongoing problems and, though I do care, I don’t have the emotional energy or time to deal with her problem as well. I work and she never has, so she can’t really understand how tired I am. Your advice? A. Confide that you are finding it difficult, both at work and at home, to talk on the telephone without being overheard. Explain that this is inhibiting your ability to empathise and strategise with her. Suggest that instead she begins to communicate her feelings to you by daily email. In this way you can give her situation your undivided attention and email back your considered responses. It will be less emotionally draining for you to read her updates than to hear them. Ironically she will also benefit by clarifying her … [Read more...] about Dear Mary: how can I stop my husband from hijacking my punchlines?
DEAR DEIDRE: UNTIL I married my long-term girlfriend, I was regularly meeting up with my lover for shopping and lunch followed by sex. Now I regret getting hitched. I am 33 and my wife is 28. She went to Pakistan two years ago to spend some time with her parents and, while she was away, I got to know a lovely girl. She was 26 and a family friend of my best friend. I’d told him that I really liked her when I saw her at a family party so he introduced us, though she was already married with a newborn child. She’d always smiled at me and there was an instant chemistry I couldn’t ignore. She knew that I had a fiancee. After a few weeks we started messaging each other, sometimes dozens of texts a day. Then we started talking on the phone. One day I called her early in the morning and we talked all day until her husband came home. She was very unhappily married. He’s not a bad man but much older than her and no fun. My life became very exciting. We’d go shopping … [Read more...] about I’ve married the wrong woman and want my lover to come back into my life
MUM-OF-THREE Pepita Ridgeway knew her husband had a nasty streak - but it was only when she asked him for a divorce that his true colours really started to show. The 51-year-old from Queensland, Australia, was sleeping in their caravan following a row when she woke to discover a menacing hissing sound coming from under her pillow. Here she shares the shocking story of how her husband tried to gas her to death with Fabulous Digital... SITTING down next to me, my husband Robert, 64, passed me a pen. “It just makes financial sense,” he explained, getting me to sign the complicated legal papers. We’d been married for 18 years, so it seemed reasonable when he encouraged me to restructure our will so he would get all our properties if I died. With three beautiful children, we had been happy together once. But Robert could have a short fuse. One day, we were staying in a hotel, when he exploded viciously after I asked him why he didn’t bring up breakfast for me. … [Read more...] about My husband of 18 years tried to gas me to death in my sleep when I told him I wanted a divorce