Whenever Stephan used to travel, Maria couldn't sleep. The fear that her boyfriend might end up in some other woman's bed kept her awake at night. Finally it happened: Stephan cheated, confessed, and Maria's world collapsed. For many couples, the story ends there. Such a betrayal often feels too big, too destructive. The relationship is over. Maria and Stephan, on the other hand, are still together. Not only that: Twelve years later, they have two children. And Maria says the whole episode even strengthened their trust in their own relationship. Seriously? We're all cheaters Kristin Gilbert, a psychologist and psychotherapist, has a professional interest in the factors that motivate people to have a fling with someone else. More than ten years ago, she, together with colleagues at the Technical University Braunschweig, looked into exactly which circumstances contribute to cheating. Using the data collected in the study, the scientists developed a therapy … [Read more...] about Infidelity: A fling doesn’t have to end everything
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It was once the pride of Hitler’s navy but now an 800lb bronze Nazi eagle from the German ‘pocket battleship’ Graf Spee is set to be auctioned off to the highest bidder – amid fears it may end up in the hands of white supremacists. The giant eagle atop a swastika was originally salvaged from the Graf Spee in 2006 but has been tied up in a bitter court fight ever since. It could fetch £20 million. Last week, a judge in Uruguay ruled the controversial Nazi symbol must be auctioned off – a sale that could take place as early as next month – with the proceeds split between a team of international businessmen who funded the salvage operation and the Uruguayan government. Many fear the eagle, which was briefly displayed in a hotel in Montevideo before protests forced it to be taken down, may fall in to the wrong hands when it is put up for sale alongside a cannon and a rangefinder from the ship. The eagle is pictured being salvaged Alfredo … [Read more...] about £20m Nazi eagle recovered from the wreck of Hitler’s Graf Spee ‘pocket battleship’ will be sold at auction – amid fears it may end up in the hands of white supremacists
About a third of the record four million people across Scotland who are registered to vote in next Thursday's general election are not expected to do so.Many simply won't get round to voting this time, while others have never voted.But with disillusionment with politics and politicians said to be on the rise, some say they no longer want to endorse what they they claim is a broken system.'Politicians don't understand the struggles of common people'Clair Ellis, from Armadale in West Lothian, has been unemployed, homeless and a single parent at different points in her life.The 37-year-old says those experiences shaped her view that politics is a "circus" that does little to actually improve people's lives - and that politicians with "lavish lifestyles" are out of touch with the struggles faced by many of their constituents. Ms Ellis believes many promises the parties make before elections are little more than attempts to bribe voters, and that they will "hardly ever come to pass".And she … [Read more...] about Election 2019: Who are the Scots who won’t vote?
I’ll never forget the day my parents told me that they were getting divorced. It was the late 90s, I was 11, and I had returned from school clutching an oil pastel copy of Picasso’s Woman In A Hat (Olga), 1935, which I had made in art class for reasons now lost to the mists of time. I was excited to show it to them. Instead, they told me I should sit down, and that their marriage was ending. It didn’t seem appropriate to show off my picture after that. Seven years later, I saw the painting in real life at the Centre Pompidou in Paris, learning, in a twist of synchronicity, that Picasso had painted this sad, unflattering portrait of his first wife shortly after their marriage had collapsed. Olga left Picasso, and my mother left my father, though it was Dad who moved out of the family home. It broke my heart. It’s now 50 years since the Divorce Reform Act 1969 was drafted. The legislation meant that, for the first time, couples could divorce without one … [Read more...] about ‘I haven’t seen a healthy version of marriage’: children of divorce on the lasting impact
Hitler’s top hat was sold just a few weeks ago at a Munich-based online auction for £43,000 There can’t be too many old caps worth £360,000, or battered telephones going for £187,000. What about a top hat priced at £43,000? How often, for that matter, do you find a decades-old pair of pink silk knickers on sale for £4,000 or three pieces of shabby cutlery for £2,000? At least these various items had only one careful owner. What makes them special, of course, is that they belonged to Adolf Hitler – apart from the underwear, the property of his wife Eva Braun. Yes, it would be easy to dismiss this sort of memorabilia and the ludicrous prices they attract with jocularity. But, as a historian who specialises in writing and broadcasting about the Third Reich, I find the growing market for these items distasteful and dangerous. Not only is there something lurid and darkly fetishistic about collecting material associated … [Read more...] about From Hitler’s top hat, shirt and telephone to his mistress Eva Braun’s knickers… GUY WALTERS on the shameful and dangerous booming trade in Third Reich trophies