"If I'm honest, she was totally out of my league," says John (38) from Dublin. "So it was a surprise - a pleasant surprise - when she was so keen to meet up." Over the course of a week, John and Sandra exchanged somewhere in the region of 80 messages on WhatsApp, where their relationship became "very intense very quickly". At first Sandra asked lots of "ice-breaker questions", but before long her messages became sexually graphic. "I was just out of a long-term relationship and new to the whole online dating thing," says John. "I had heard loads of people say Tinder was for hook-ups and all that so I just assumed that that was the way it was." A date was soon arranged in a venue on Dublin's Southside but neither party turned up. The day beforehand, John told a friend about his upcoming date. He showed him a picture of Sandra and shared some of the messages she had sent him. "He smelt a rat immediately," says John, "especially when I told him that she only had one photograph of herself … [Read more...] about Bad romance: The dark side of online dating
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Online dating is an activity that draws in millions of people the world over, with users searching via a range of topics, depending on whether they want casual friendship or long-lasting romance, based on parameters such as age, sexual orientation, interests, and numerous other possibilities. But is online dating dangerous? There are certainly risks to be aware of. One of the most obvious perceived risks of this form of dating is the lack of knowledge about the person you are communicating with. It is certainly possible to build up valuable friendships or even long-standing romance with someone you have only just connected with in this virtual environment, but this lack of any face-to-face connection in the early stages leaves people open to exploitation at the hands of less scrupulous site visitors. Scamming Scamming is a real risk to people using any date service. Unfortunately, the perpetrators of this type of dishonesty are adept at lulling victims into a false sense of security. … [Read more...] about What are the real and perceived risks and dangers of online dating?
YOU'VE swiped right, made a match and after that awkward small talk, this person could be 'the one'. But before you're metaphorically walking down the aisle with Mr Online you might need to rethink the mental life plans you've already. Here's the eight easy signs that you may need to think twice... 1. They don't message you back for days It's back and forth constantly, you're being hilarious, the banter is 'lit' and then, radio silence. Cheers mate. Still, while they're entitled to leave you hanging while they do their washing/live their own life, being on and off for days at a time could indicate a power complex that you don't want to be part of. “This is a classic benching move,” says dating expert Caroline Brealey from matchmaking service Mutual Attraction. “It’s when someone keeps potential dates interested – ‘on the bench’ – so they can sub them in if they’re lonely or their first option doesn’t work out." Solution: Spot … [Read more...] about The 8 warning signs that your online date is bad news… and how to avoid them
A forensic psychologist from Derbyshire has issued a warning about the grave potential dangers of dating apps such as Tinder, Plenty of Fish, Bumble and Grindr. Dr Ruth Tully has provided her expertise for a new TV documentary called Swipe Right For Murder, after examining some terrifying killings that have come about after people meet online. The psychologist, who has appeared on Sky and the BBC, is warning Derbyshire people to be highly circumspect about who they choose to meet up with. She said: “I was delighted to land a spot on ‘Swipe Right For Murder’, but it did make the risks seem all too real. "Statistics show that one in five people between the ages of 25 and 34 now meet their partner online. "The online dating sector has grown into an industry worth more than £1.7 billion. Online dating can be a great way to meet new people but it opens users up to huge risks if they don't try to protect themselves." The dangers of online dating hit the headlines back … [Read more...] about Forensic psychologist warns of online dating dangers after murders
A forensic psychologist has lifted the lid on the darker side of internet dating and is warning men and women about the dangers of meeting potential partners online. Dr Ruth Tully, 35, who is based in Nottingham, has just appeared as an expert TV commentator on new documentary Swipe Right For Murder. The programme, which is aired on Really, looks at some of the tragic, heart-breaking murder cases in the UK and worldwide. Now she wants to warn people who meet potential partners online to do so with caution after seeing some of the crimes committed that way. Dr Tully analyses human behaviour from the victim through to the perpetrator. Her work includes prison parole board and court assessments. Online dating crime hit the headlines last June when Molly McLaren was stabbed to death by a man she met on Tinder. She told the Post: "People still are not aware about being safe online and they fall into trusting people when they don't know if what they are saying is true. "People don't spot the … [Read more...] about Forensic psychologist lifts the lid on the darker side of online dating