One day in late June 2001, Rosario Porto, a petite, dark-haired lawyer from Santiago de Compostela, northern Spain, sat nervously on a flight to China beside her husband Alfonso Basterra, a quiet man from the Basque country, who worked as a freelance journalist. The couple, both in their mid-30s, were on their way to adopt a baby girl. Porto swallowed two tablets of Orfidal – a common anti-anxiety medicine that she had used before then – but remained too agitated and excited to sleep. The couple had had no trouble persuading local Spanish authorities that they would make good parents and that their child would be surrounded by a loving extended family. Porto’s father was a lawyer who had been honorary consul for France in Santiago, and her mother was a university lecturer in history of art. They had given their daughter a flat that occupied a whole floor of a four-storey block in what some call Santiago’s “VIP zone”, home to the city’s upper … [Read more...] about Why did two parents murder their adopted child?
Adoptive child behaviour at school
By Richard HoganIn last week’s article, I wrote about school refusal. I looked at the difference between truancy and a child’s fear of the school environment. I also discussed why a child refuses to go to school.This week, I am going to outline some of the strategies the parent can adopt to help the child. When a family comes to me presenting with this problem, I ask: what is this behaviour trying to communicate? All behaviour is a form of communication, so we have to decipher what the behaviour is telling us. What has occurred to cause this maladaptive behaviour and how can it be changed?But, as I said last week, sometimes it is not very obvious what is causing the opposition and a child can often struggle to articulate their concerns. This can be very challenging for all involved.While it can be stressful to watch your child go through school refusal, you must remain clam. If you become anxious and stressed, you will be communicating to your child that their anxiety is … [Read more...] about Learning Points: Lessons to be learned for child who fears school
Justice has been dispensed to scores of people breaking the law in a wide range of ways last week. Bristol Magistrates' Court has dealt with drink drivers, stalkers, thugs and thieves as well as a few more unusual ones including selling endangered animals such as an animal and illegally operating a pizza oven. As a result a host of sentences from jail terms to unpaid work orders as well as thousands of pounds in fines have been dispensed. Electronic tags as well as restraining orders have also been issued too. Below are all the list of people and the charges dealt with by the court, as well as the punishment handed down. Remember that if a defendant pleads guilty the magistrates will often hand down a more lenient sentence than when a defendant pleads not guilty. This is known as ‘credit’ being given for the guilty plea. Victims names have been withdrawn and cases where sentencing has yet to be done may be on future court listings, or if deemed too serious will be sent to … [Read more...] about Everyone sentenced at Bristol Magistrates’ Court this week
With her tumbling chestnut locks and steady gaze, Dominique Maasdam looks poised and confident as she models clothes for a High Street fashion chain. Dominique, 17, has not only posed for New Look, she also recently auditioned for TV soap Hollyoaks for the part of an autistic teen who has trouble making friends. It is a role which Dominique, from Grimsby, Lincolnshire, has also played in real life, ever since she was diagnosed with autism at the age of three. Her condition means she has always had difficulties interacting with others and reading social cues, like body language. Yet there is one more reason Dominique is beating the odds. Although it is separate from her autism, she was also born with Foetal Alcohol Syndrome, which can result if a mother drinks alcohol while her baby is in the womb. As well as causing learning difficulties, unlike autism it can also change the facial features of the children it affects. Changes include a flattened upper lip, no clear groove between the … [Read more...] about I’m so angry that my mum’s drinking during pregnancy left me disabled as a child… but now I’m modelling for New Look
IT can be hard for parents to give their child the freedom to fail in life – but could it harm them in the long run? Here’s everything you need to know about snowplough parenting, and how it affects children. What is snowplough parenting? This style of parenting is when mums and dads remove any difficulty from their child’s path – similar to pushing snow out of a path. This could be when a parent bribes a teacher to let their child on a sports team, or pays someone to write an essay for them. Some parents adopt this style as they think their child is exceptional and they want to ensure they succeed. However, this can also lead to an expectation being placed on youngsters to be high-achievers. Where does the term snowplough parenting come from? It appears the term was first coined by former high school teacher David McCullough in 2015. He wrote a book called You Are Not Special where he explored the importance of letting kids fail. This was based on a speech … [Read more...] about What is snowplough or lawnmower parenting, where does the term come from and how does it affect children’s behaviour?