Author David Thomas still lives as a man, but has begun the male-to-female gender transition that will eventually result in becoming a woman. Each week he chronicles his progress. This week, David opens up about hiding his true self beneath a self-confident masculine veneer I spent the ’80s frantically chasing the yuppie dream. By the age of 24 I’d interviewed Bowie, hung out at rehearsals with the Stones, had dinner with Tina Turner seated to one side of me and Annie Lennox on the other, and been named Young Journalist of the Year. At 25, I was given the first of three magazine editorships. I entered my 30s with every blessing a young man could desire. ‘You may find yourself in a beautiful... To continue reading this article Start your free trial of Premium Access all Premium articles Subscriber-only events Cancel any time Free for 30 days then only £2 per week Try Premium Access one Premium article per … [Read more...] about ‘Before I started transitioning, I spent years hating myself’
“From the very start of my new job with my current employer, working flexibly has been a key requirement,” explains John Rogerson, 34, father to Noah, 2 and Zachary 5. “It was the whole reason why I moved jobs. I was looking for flexibility and it wasn’t possible in my previous role.” Rogerson, a London-based business director is one a growing number of men seeking a greater work-life balance in a bid to play a more equal role in raising their children. "On a typical day, I take the kids to school in the morning as my wife does shift work. I then head straight to work for about 9:30ish. I work straight through and leave at 5:30 to be home for 6pm for my wife to leave for her work.” Rogerson’s... To continue reading this article Start your free trial of Premium Access all Premium articles Subscriber-only events Cancel any time Free for 30 days then only £2 per week Try Premium Access one Premium … [Read more...] about Why shouldn’t fathers be allowed to work flexibly too?
Dear Ciara I’m a teenage girl, currently working full time in a shop. I sat my A-levels last year, but I didn’t apply for university and I now feel like a failure. I still don’t know what I want to do for a career and find it really challenging when people constantly question what my plans are and ask why I’m not at uni. Everyone seems to think that getting a degree is the only way to succeed in life. I am struggling to find an area of work I’m really interested in and don’t want to end up doing something I hate. Do you have any advice? Ciara says Don’t panic! You’re still young and have plenty of time to decide what you want to do with your life. However, I understand how you feel because I’m constantly asked why I’m not at university and what I want to do for a career. What I think is, there’s no point in going to uni if it’s just for the sake of it and you don’t want to be there. It’s a huge waste of … [Read more...] about ‘I feel I’m being judged because I’m not at university’
Even so, modern scattered families mean that even with the best of effort, many young children now grow up without benefiting from time spent with older adults. However, there’s a quiet but steadily growing movement that could change all this, as evidence mounts that regular time together has benefits for both the old and the young. In 1976, Shamuda Masaharu decided to merge a nursery school in Tokyo with a nearby care home for the elderly while the nursery was renovated. This was purely a practical decision, but almost at once, staff in both establishments noted social and cognitive improvements in both old and young. The older residents became more alert and interested in their surroundings, and talked and smiled more often. The children, too, seemed happier and more responsive to the extra care and attention they enjoyed. The two establishments never separated, and by 1998, there were 16 more intergenerational care facilities in the capital, with daily joint activities for … [Read more...] about The joys of granny daycare
Joel Snarr watched with horror from behind the wheel of his car as the light aircraft flying over Abergavenny clipped a power line and nosedived towards the central reservation of the A40, last Sunday. The ex-army officer and his wife, Sarah, were driving home from a weekend visiting his goddaughter when the plane crashed to the ground just 100 metres ahead of them. Snarr didn’t miss a beat. “Stay calm and call the fire brigade,” he told Sarah, before sprinting towards the plane, thinking, “please, don’t let them burn to death.” He and a driver passing in the other direction, Daniel Nicholson, pulled 19 year-old Jack Moore and his sister, Billie Manley, 16, through the back window of the plane... To continue reading this article Start your free trial of Premium Access all Premium articles Subscriber-only events Cancel any time Free for 30 days then only £2 per week Try Premium Access one Premium article … [Read more...] about ‘Saving people from the A40 plane crash helped my PTSD’