Meghan Markle: Expert on 'cracks' in relationship with Kate
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The Duke and Duchess of Sussex stepped down as senior royals last year and moved to the US with their son Archie , and have since had baby Lili . Their decision to leave their royal roles and the fact that they have continually spoken to the media over the past few months about their experiences in The Firm, airing the family's dirty laundry, has increased tensions further. The most obvious example of this was their interview with Oprah Winfrey in March, in which they made a number of allegations, the most shocking being around race and mental health.
Their claims prompted Buckingham Palace to respond “recollections may vary”.
However, it was something that happened after the interview which relationship expert Sami Wunder believes really broke the trust between Harry and his brother Prince William and his sister-in-law Kate, Duchess of Cambridge .
Harry and Meghan's friend Gayle King told CBS that the Duke had spoken to his brother since the interview but that the conversation was "unproductive".
Leaking this to the media may have made William more wary to speak to his brother, worried that anything he may say could end up in the press.
Ms Wunder told Express.co.uk that the brothers need to work together to rebuild this trust and make sure their future conversations remain private.
Meghan and Harry left their royal roles last year (Image: GETTY)
Meghan and Harry spoke to Oprah Winfrey about their experience in the Royal Family (Image: Harpo Productions / Reuters)
She said: "I think it's very important that whatever happens within their reconciliation conversations is not leaked to the press because I think that's important to build the trust again.
"I think when Gayle King started talking about, after the Oprah interview, that there was nothing productive about the conversation they had, I think that was a big, big breach of trust.
"And I'm sure it wasn't intended and I'm sure Harry and Meghan did not intend to take it this way but these things happen, these slip-ups happen when you are an important and influential person and you trust certain people.
"So I think it's important that trust is rebuilt on both sides and that both sides agree that this is a private family affair and it is not for public consumption.
"It's not entertainment, it's not Cosmopolitan and Vogue material, it's family and it deserves dignity and respect in the way it is handled moving forward."
Gayle King said the talk between the brothers was ‘unproductive’ (Image: CBS)
The suggestion that future discussions remain confidential was backed up by another relationship expert, Neil Wilkie.
He agreed that the family drama playing out in the media is not helpful towards healing the divide.
He insisted that the meeting had to be "in secret" and with just Harry and William there.
He argued even inviting a third party like Kate to be the media, while it could help, it could also make things worse.
He told Express.co.uk: "First of all, they have to do it out of the glare of publicity.
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The Cambridges and Sussexes are somewhat at odds these days (Image: GETTY)
"To do it when the TV cameras are rolling is entirely the wrong time to do it.
"It has to be in secret and it has to be the two of them together, nobody else there."
He added: "It only needs to be a small relationship ripple to cause significant change.
"But if Harry picked up the phone to William or William picked up the phone to Harry and said 'look, I'm really sorry about where we've ended up, I love you and I’d like us to have a good relationship in the future, could we talk about that?'
"I think that's what needs to happen, to involve other people as mediators may help but it may also make things worse."
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Both Ms Wunder and Mr Wilkie also agree that to move past this, both parties will need to agree to put the past behind them.
They each have their grievances but playing the blame game will do nothing to heal the rift.
Ms Wunder said: "And also that they have to put the past behind themselves, I think there are complaints on both sides, there's resentment on both sides, there's recollections, as they say ‒ recollections may vary ‒ so I think both sides have their own stories, but it's important to keep the past in the past, forgive and do better now onwards."
Mr Wilkie added: "They both need to focus on what they actually want in the future and where there are arguments which run through family ‒ sometimes for generations ‒ often the original reason for the argument gets lost, but it just becomes a place that people can't move on from.
"So by focusing on the future and the relationship the two of them want to have in the future may help them leave the past behind.
"And you know, you can also get caught into the blame game. Whose fault was it? Should Harry have been on Oprah etc?
"Again, that takes you back to the past and you need to accept that you can’t change what's happened but you can change how you allow it to affect your future."
Sami Wunder is a dating and relationship expert for high-achieving women and helps them find and keep romantic love. She can be found here .
Mr Wilkie is the author of The Relationship Paradigm series of books and creator of the online couples therapy platform, the Relationship Paradigm.
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